Teach Your Daughter About Powerful Female Role Models: Oprah Winfrey

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Oprah headshotIs Oprah Winfrey a good role model?  

Some say no; she doesn’t produce value, she doesn’t have good morals, she’s a TV celebrity which, in itself, doesn’t really do anything good for society, she’s just after the money, she sells snake oil.

Others say yes; she grew up in poverty, she overcame severe personal struggles and abuse to make something of herself and her life, she tries to unite people and move us forward as a society, she is inspirational, a generous philanthropist, and positively benefits society.

For each of us to come to our own conclusion, it helps to know what it really means to be a role model.

Mirriam-Webster defines a role model as “a person whose behavior in a particular role is imitated by others”.

Dictionary.com provides a fuller definition:  a person whose behavior, example, or success is or can be emulated by others, especially by younger people.”

Has Oprah Winfrey done anything in her life that fits these definitions?

Absolutely!

Forbes magazine reached out to ForbesWoman communities on Twitter and Facebook to determine the most inspiring woman in the world.

After “mom”, Oprah Winfrey was at the top of the list and was named the Most Powerful Celebrity by Forbes in 2010.

Oprah is a successful businesswoman, owner of Harpo Productions, and a TV network.

She is a multi-millionaire and has launched the careers of several now successful people.

Oprah launched her broadcasting career at the age of 19, being the youngest person and first African-American to at Nashville’s WTF-TV.

Oprah Winfrey values education as a way to lift yourself out of poverty and create a future.

Through her private charity, Oprah has offered hundreds of grants to organizations that help educate and empower women.

Through the “Oprah Winfrey Scholars Program”, she provides scholarships to those who want to give back to their communities.  Her leadership and philanthropy is not limited to the United States.  She even created a leadership academy for girls in South Africa.

Oprah was not born with a silver spoon in her mouth…she worked hard for her achievements even in the face of severe personal struggles with childhood abuse. As a result, she initiated the National Child Protection Act in 1991 to establish a database of convicted child abusers.  In 1993, former President Bill Clinton signed the “Oprah Bill” into law.

The list of things that Oprah Winfrey has accomplished covers ten pages on her official biography website.  The list of awards she received takes up one whole page alone!  I encourage you to check it out to learn more about why many think that Oprah Winfrey is a good role model for our daughters.

Click here for more:  http://www.oprah.com/pressroom/Oprah-Winfreys-Official-Biography

Teach Your Daughter About Powerful Female Role Models

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Throwback Thursday 1Media mogul Oprah Winfrey

Politician Hillary Clinton

Olympic gymnast Gabby Douglas

Actress Emma Watson

First Lady of California, journalist, and activist  Maria Shriver

Author J. K. Rowling {who began her writing career as a single mother}

What do all these women have in common?  

They are considered to be among the most powerful, inspiring female role models of our time.  And this list could be joined by many, many more women who exhibited power, courage, and leadership throughout time.

Why is acknowledging these women {or women like them} so important to society, and more importantly, to our own daughters?  Because as mothers it is our obligation, our duty, to inspire our daughters, to teach them lessons, to provide them with the tools they will need to carve their own successful paths, to instill confidence and competence, and acceptance of their bodies.

Do we, as mothers, want to empower our daughters to make a difference in the world?  Then we have to go beyond just telling them they should develop their own power as a female and strive to make a difference; we have to show them how to do so.  It provides them with a visual or a map of what is possible, that there are obstacles, and how to overcome them.

It also counteracts the “negative” role models that are out there.  And let’s face it, part of the reason our daughters may be confused in this area is because of the mixed messages they are bombarded with through the media of women who use sex and their bodies to feed a man’s sexual appetite just to make a buck then turn around and claim to be empowered and if they can do it, why not?

Let’s explore what makes some of the women above great role models.  And remember that if we look, we can find some outstanding examples in many areas, whether they are in media, government, business, sports, art, or even just an everyday someone that you know personally.  The series starts in two weeks with the first role model.

Safe Places for Girls to Hang Out Online

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Computer KidWhen I was a teen, the mall was the hangout of choice for girls my age. Not so much for tween and teen girls today. Thanks to the Internet, hanging out with others who have similar interests is no longer limited to a geographic location.

So here’s the thing about the World Wide Web…it’s worldwide! And we want to keep our girls safe! That is a challenge when we CAN see faces and verify that people are good people and are who they say they are. How are we supposed to do that in an online environment where we can’t and identities become blurred?

Thankfully, we as parents have some help to guide us as we navigate through this uncharted terrain. That help comes in the form of regulation. Now I know that thought can incur some eye rolling but regulation is a good start. The very best sites for kids between the ages of 7 and 13 adhere to Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA) guidelines. It limits how much personal information the site can ask for from children 13 and under. Most of these sites require a parental account or at least, a one-time parent verification via credit card. Parental awareness and control plays a huge role in the online safety of a child.

That aside, what are safe but fun online social networking sites for teens and tweens where parents can oversee the process? Check out the short list below to see what fits your child’s interests and family values.

  • giantHello – social media gaming with the look and feel of Facebook. Here you can friend, private message, join group, upload pic, etc. Gaming is similar to Facebook.
  • Imbee – trendy site with a focus on pop/celeb media and entertainment, imbee Radio, web series and specials, chat room, upload capabilities, and groups.
  • Kidsocial – very cool site with branded entertainment, connectivity capabilities, gaming, and filtered streaming.
  • KidzVuz – kids can share reviews via integrated webcam, connectivity with anonymity option. Designed for 13 and under; perfect for 8-to-10-year-olds.
  • Scuttlepad – social media starter for 6-to-10-year-olds.
  • WhatsWhat.me – the most secure of the sites with required webcam to sign in via facial recognition technology that is checked by a real person at every login. Kids can only hang out with others in their same grade. Social media, messaging, friending, etc. There is a fee for using the site ($4 monthly/$30 yearly). Geared toward 7-to-13-year-olds.

Do you have any sites you’d add to this list?

7 Resources to Help You Raise a Confident Daughter

What is confidence? The textbook definition is a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something.

Confidence is trust.

But what is it in our real, non-textbook, everyday, individual life, and why is it important?

Confidence is being comfortable in your own skin. Confidence is living in the present moment and owning who you are, every part of you. Confidence is the ability to stand up for what you believe in.

It affects everything in our life, including the quality of our relationships and the success we achieve. Without it, our daughters are prone to negative things like poor body image, alcohol and drug abuse, defensiveness, procrastination, and depression.

In short, not having it sucks.

Since confidence is necessary for happiness and success in life, where can we as loving parents find good resources that give us the information we need to provide our daughters with this essential life skill?

Take a look at these seven sites that provide interesting reads, startling statistics, and great ideas to help you raise a kick-butt daughter!

Raising Strong, Confident Girls – I love their interesting take on media at the end of the article. Make it a family affair!

10 tips for raising a confident girl – Our world isn’t perfect, and filling our daughters’ heads with fluffy, pretty, candy-coated ideals isn’t going to suffice. Check out these great tips on things like preparing your daughter for sexism and helping her understand why she sometimes gets left out.

Raising Girls – A resource like this would be particularly helpful for a dad, because let’s face it, they’re not girls and they need some help figuring this stuff out.

8 Essential Steps for Raising Confident Girls – I <3 number one – tell your daughter this every. single. day.

How to Raise Your Daughter’s Self-Esteem – Have a clear definition of success as a parent. Well said Dr. Phil. Otherwise, it’s like the blind leading the blind.

Raising Daughters with High Self-Esteem – I love this heartfelt article. No matter how good our intentions, often as mothers we present what we think is a less-than-stellar role model for our daughters. But you know what, we’re still teaching them something…

Raising Confident Girls – This is the wake-up call that every parent needs. Girls are different today, and you need to learn how to adapt.

Bonus site! I absolutely love A Mighty Girl!! They curate some of the most amazing books, documentaries, clothes, and more that will help you help your daughter from now ‘til she’s pulling in social security…

Share some of your favorite resources in the comments below!

Where have you been, Sweet P?

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I never thought I’d see the day that I wouldn’t set foot in my {virtual} house for almost five months. This place is so dear to me that I just knew I’d always be hanging out here.

Well, stuff happens.

Several things created the perfect storm, and next thing I know it had been months since I’d posted.

Some good, some not-so-good. Ultimately, I think I needed the break. I did lots of really fun things {I’m spilling about them below!}.

I just wish I hadn’t let myself get to the burnout point in the first place. Then I wouldn’t have needed the siesta.

So, what have I been up to?

I DID NOT ONE, NOT TWO, BUT THREE 5KS!

Sure, I walked them, but in my world, “Tiffany” and “5K” did not belong in the same sentence together. But, I did them, and I had a blast!

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I MADE MY OWN HOMESCHOOL PLANNING NOTEBOOK

Can’t find what you need? Make it!

I SPOKE AT A BLOGGING CONFERENCE

It was actually really fun and I’m hoping to do it again next year.

I WENT BACK HOME FOR A FUNERAL

This definitely wasn’t fun, but in the end, I learned some stuff about my Poppy I never knew and that rocks.

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I WENT TO A SELENA GOMEZ CONCERT WITH BABYDOLL

She had a blast, and that was worth admission and then some.

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I WENT TO THE ZOO

I let a flamingo eat straight out of my hand!

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I WENT TO FRONTIER DAYS AND THE MOUNDVILLE NATIVE AMERICAN FESTIVAL

We saw hoop dancing {amazing!} and participated in stomp dancing.

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I WENT TO THE STATE FAIR IN NC

It was cold, but I ate a deep-fried Snickers bar, so you know, it was cool.

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I VISITED WITH MY BROTHER WHO JUST GOT BACK FROM AFGHANISTAN

I was very thankful he made it home to share interesting stories, video, and pictures.

MY MOM AND SISTER CAME TO VISIT

And it was great: we cooked, we went to a fall festival, and we visited Sloss Furnace during haunted house time. Priceless.

BABYDOLL STARTED BATON {AND KEPT PLAYING SOCCER}

She loves it, and is a natural!

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BABYDOLL MADE ARTWORK FOR OUR LIVING ROOM

Vince and I added a couple of minor touches, but she is the real star!

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And this is just a smattering of what went on!

I’m not going to promise five blog posts a week now because I don’t want to be a liar. ;) What I can say is that I feel renewed and excited to be back here, and I hope that it comes through in what I plan to share.