Sweet Critique: Princess Recovery

Princess RecoveryWhen I first got the review copy of Princess Recovery:  A How-To Guide to Raising Strong, Empowered Girls Who Can Create Their Own Happily Ever Afters, I was excited because it was pink and sparkly {like, it actually shimmers}. I can’t help it, I love pink and I love sparkles and glitter and girly stuff.

With that said, I also believe strongly that females should be able to stand on their own two feet as independent, hard-working, functional individuals.  Whoa, that’s a loaded statement isn’t it?

For the most part, I’m not heavily slanted to one side or the other on this issue.  I am a very strong-willed and independent person {having been raised by a single mother} who feels strongly that women have not gotten enough credit throughout history, but I also enjoy having a husband that goes out and makes the money for the household and whom I can throw burdens on if I need to.  For the record, I know it sounds like I just use him for money and stress relief, but I really do love him tons!

So, after the “Oooooo” of the pink and sparkly wore off, I thought that the concept of this book was fascinating and I couldn’t wait to dig in.

My Favorite Part of the Book


Right off the bat I found my favorite part of the book.  Inside the front sleeve is a section entitled Who Will Your Daughter Be.  You know, I’d like to think that all of us would pick “The Heroine” for our daughters, but sadly, at least some would pick “The Princess”.

I want Babydoll to:

  • appreciate her inner AND outer beauty
  • help herself – and others
  • work hard to earn her successes
  • maintain healthy relationships with everyone she loves
  • believe in a bright future she’s imagined for herself
  • define herself by her own standards and moral compass
  • expect the best of herself – and treat others with compassion

I don’t want her to think her looks are most important, romance will fix a relationship, that marriage is an end-all, be-all, or that she is entitled to the best at the expense of others.  That was one powerful little section.

My Second, Almost Equally, Favorite Part


I was a little worried that this book would be a bunch of babble about how girls can’t like pink or dress up or balls or other girly stuff, and I was so pleasantly surprised to find out that is not at all what Hartstein is endorsing.  In the back of the book she has two sections, Children’s Books for Heroines and Healthy Princess Play Ideas.

We love books in this house, so a section that outlines books such as The Daring Book for Girls and Watch Out for Clever Women! was great to see.  And Babydoll loves to play dress up and have tea parties and go to balls, so I like the fact that Hartstein points out things such as designing a dress, having a real tea party, and learning to dance as great add-ons/alternatives to these activities.

The Book as a Whole


In it’s entirety, I think Princess Recovery is a must for any mother of girls.  Hartstein provides practical action items for a variety of age groups to help you teach your daughters how to become heroines that appreciate themselves as a person and what their talents and abilities are, rather than a pretty object.

The book is not heavy on complete avoidance of girly stuff, but celebrates the fact that girls can be multifaceted and love being girly as well as going out and getting dirty.

I definitely recommend it!

True Confessions:  I was provided with a review copy of this book to facilitate my review.  All opinions are my own.