Blissdom Breakdown 4: I Found My Bliss

Blissdom Conference 2012

Be sure to check out the first, second, and third posts in the series, too!

I got more out of Blissdom than I could ever put into these breakdown posts.  I wanted to touch on a few key parts, though, and I hope you guys have enjoyed it!

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Blissdom was one of the first blogging conferences I found out about after I started blogging back in August, 2010.

It looked fun, educational, and just awesome, but it also looked unattainable.  There were so many costs associated with it, and I had no idea I’d be at this point with my blogging, looking to do more.

When Vince suggested I go, it was like that little push I needed to make it happen.  I have a hard time spending large amounts of money on myself {like most mothers} and I have a hard time doing things for myself {like most mothers}, and Vince is always encouraging me to do things for myself.

I didn’t realize how bad it had gotten until my sister-in-law asked me what I was doing for myself.  There we stood, in the kitchen, cooking dinner for the family {me stressing, as usual} and she looked at me and said, “So what are you doing for yourself?  You’re always working and doing stuff for Ava and Vince, but what are you doing for fun for you?”

It stopped me dead in my tracks.  Like, I literally stopped chopping whatever it was I was chopping and looked at her, and I couldn’t answer her.

I was associating fun and fulfillment with my taking care of my family.  I was putting everything I had into working and into their needs.

Yes, I do get a certain kind of fulfillment out of caring for my family, and it can be fun, but it’s not the same.

I felt depleted.  I felt slightly bitter.  I felt exhausted, mundane, and irritated.

Irritated that I had let myself get to this point.  Irritated that I was so selfish to want to do things for myself.  Irritated that I felt selfish when I knew it wasn’t selfish.

Bitter that I had neglected myself in an effort to give to my family, which is not at all the way it should be done.

Exhausted from the constant thought process of doing for my family.  They needed me, they couldn’t function without me, so I needed to always be anticipating their needs.

One of the many problems with this is that it doesn’t work like this.  I was taking from them.  I was giving them sloppy seconds.

As I tried to blog and create this business, I was doing nothing justice.

Blissdom helped me refocus, refuel, and repurpose my life.  I felt new and fresh and happy when I left Blissdom.

I found my bliss.

I knew my family could make it without me.  I knew I could make it without them.

I was able to be Tiffany for five days.  I was able to have conversations with other women who did the same thing I do, but in vastly different ways.

I was able to make connections that I never would have otherwise.

I was able to dance and have fun, relax, go to bed early,and not worry about anything else than myself and my brand for five days.

I came home with a deeper love for my family and a deeper understanding of what I wanted out of my blog.

I am by no means perfect, and I will make mistakes along the way, but I feel I am in a great place right now.

It’s all thanks to Blissdom.  If I can help it, I will never miss a year going forward.

That’s how special it was.