Let Me Tell You ‘Bout the Birds and the Bees #KotexMom

No, not quite that talk.  But really, this talk eventually leads to that talk.

If you have a daughter, you’ll have this talk.

At some point, in some fashion, you’ll have this talk.

It may be in-depth and comfortable, or it may be short and awkward.

Yes, I’m talking about the period talk.

I feel fairly comfortable with my daughter, and we do discuss pretty much anything under the sun.

Even still, I still feel that twinge of “Oh crap!” whenever I think about having this discussion with her.

How do we make it easier?  Here are three tips to help ease you into the discussion.

KNOW YOUR STUFF

Have you ever had to give a presentation?  Wasn’t it much easier to do when you were properly prepared?

This talk with your daughter is no different.  If it’s difficult for you to discuss this with her {and really, even if it’s not}, educate yourself.

Know the facts surrounding first periods, know what changes will be happening to your daughters body, and most importantly {in my opinion} know the difference between myth and fact.

It amazes me the number of parents that never question information they were given or have heard and then pass that on to their children.

Set your daughter up for success; educate yourself so you can prepare her for all possibilities and situations.

CHOOSE A DAY TO HAVE “THE TALK”

Maybe it’s just me, but unless I pick a specific day for something, it usually doesn’t happen.

Then there’s the uncomfortable nature of this conversation, and well, it would probably never occur if I didn’t pick a date.

U by Kotex Tween has this awesome calendar online that helps you prepare for the talk by not only picking a date, but by also giving you steps to take to prepare:

I love, love, love this thing!  You just choose your day and it gives you tasks to complete on the days leading up to the talk.

It covers facts you should know, questions she might ask, tips on starting the conversation, and more.  It’ll even send you a reminder via email.

BE PREPARED

I don’t mean for the talk.  We’ve discussed that already.

I mean be prepared for her first period.  I think we get so caught up in the talk that we don’t think about the logistics sometimes.

She’ll need sanitary items.  I love that Kotex has has designed U by Kotex Tween products, just for tweens.

Remember having to keep those giant, thick pads in your purse?  Remember the distinct {ugly} baby pink wrappers?

Our daughters don’t have to deal with products not designed for them and their bodies.  These things are stylish!

Now, before you think I’m crazy, hear me out.  If you have to use the stuff, shouldn’t it be cute?  I think so.

FINAL THOUGHTS

I’m still not entirely comfortable about this conversation.  I don’t think I ever will be.  I do think that I’m much better prepared to have it now, though.

I think it’s important as a parent to have these conversations, the uncomfortable ones, because most of the time, they’re the most important.

I’d rather have this experience and know my daughter is prepared than to not do it because I’m uncomfortable.

My job is to set her up for life, and this is a part of life.

We haven’t just had one talk, we’ve had several small talks.  It’s by no means done, but I think as you let things happen naturally, it is a bit better.

If she doesn’t bring it up, bring it up on your own, in subtle ways.

Have you had this talk with your daughter? Do you have any tips to share?

True Confessions:  I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of U by Kotex Tween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.