The process doesn’t start when they become a teenager. It doesn’t start once they’ve had a bad experience or gotten into trouble.
It starts at birth. Some would even argue before then.
It takes time to foster a relationship with your daughter. It takes time to make her feel that she can come to you with anything.
You, as a parent, must take time to prepare for talks with your daughter. If you don’t, she’ll go to someone else; someone who is in all likelihood not prepared.
Preparing for Those Moments
The great thing about preparing for these moments is that you don’t have to do anything extravagant. Just be there for your daughter.
Listen to her. Don’t judge, just listen. Create special Mommy/Daughter moments and traditions.
To me, this is the first step. Just learn how to enjoy your daughter. Learn more about her so you can better read her cues.
The BIG Conversations
Most of the time you and your daughter are together, conversations will revolve around normal, everyday things.
It’s been my experience that the whoppers don’t have much lead-in. They just kind of smack you over the head with them.
I’m going to be quite honest: I’m probably still very bad about hiding my emotions when I’m told something I wasn’t prepared to hear.
Know what makes it easier? The fact that my daughter and I have a great relationship and she comes to me with what’s on her mind.
We’ve already laid that foundation, so everything else is much easier to build.
All this touchy-feely stuff is great, but when it comes to something like discussing your daughter’s first period, you need some nuts and bolts type stuff.
That’s where Kotex comes in. They’ve taken a conversation that’s been happening for generations, one that’s uncomfortable for just about everyone, and given you the tools you need to prepare specifically for that talk.
Last month I shared the calendar resource with you, but I wanted to underscore it’s importance again.
If you take nothing else away from this post, remember the calendar. If you’re having trouble figuring out exactly how to handle the period talk, this thing will get you through it.
I firmly believe you need to be prepared for everything, but especially for something so extensive as this talk. You need to know the facts. You need to know what she might ask. You need to know how to handle it.
Oh, and remember: it’s OK if you don’t know the answer to a question. Just tell your daughter, research it, and come back to it.
Still need some help and want to point your daughter in the direction of some good information?
Be sure to check out the Hello Period site, put together by U by Kotex Tween. It’s a great resource for daughters.
I’d like to say one final thing about preparing for these talks: think of it in terms of how your daughter views it. She’s going through changes that are quite possibly scary to her.
She’s looking to you, her hero, for information and assistance. You’ve been there. You can help her.
Remember the awkward talks you had with your mother. Or the ones she had with her mother. Break the cycle. Make use of the technology and the resources U by Kotex Tween has put together and provide her with the best possible start into this new phase in her life.
What about you; how do you prepare for talks like this with your daughter?
True Confessions: I wrote this review while participating in a Brand Ambassador Campaign by Mom Central Consulting on behalf of U by Kotex Tween and received products to facilitate my post and a promotional item to thank me for taking the time to participate.