Dumb isn’t Pretty: Building Self-Esteem in Girls Through Education

Building Self-Esteem in Girls Through Education

Self-esteem in girls peaks at about age nine, and then it tanks from there. Sobering right? Yeah, I pretty much feel like a #fail parent.

I want my daughter to feel fulfilled, to know how to shine in her own skin. This requires self-esteem, and I wholeheartedly believe that education is one of the foundational pieces of building self-esteem in girls.

Education provides you with opportunities. Education teaches you about other cultures.

Education helps you discover what makes you sparkle inside.  Keep reading for five ways I strive to use education to help her do this.

What Type of Education?

I’m not just talking book smarts. Education doesn’t have to involve sitting in a school.

Education encompasses a wide realm of activities, and as parents it’s our job to make sure these are appreciated and utilized.

It can involve the library, extra-curricular activities, reading, writing, music, art, science, technology, anything that furthers your knowledge and experience in any given subject.

It can come from books or movies or television {NatGeo anyone?} or people or interactions or experiences.

Wrap your head around all of that I just said up there. You’ve got to understand it before you can help your daughter understand it.

Why is it so Important to Build Self-Esteem in Girls?

Many girls have a tendency to focus on what’s outside; after all, this means they can attract boys.

Who needs a smart girl when you can have a pretty one?

{Yes, typing that last part did make me throw up a little in my mouth.}

Oprah said it best, when talking about aging:

I know for sure that only by owning who and what you are can you step into the fullness of life.

Who you are: a caring, vibrant, empathetic, funny, smart, confident, thoughtful girl. And so on.

What you are: a dentist, doctor, teacher, mother, wife, archaeologist, scientist, business owner. And on and on.

Beauty fades. It can’t be used as a calling card forever.

Would you rather help your daughter build her inner beauty, her hopes and dreams, so that she always feels fulfilled, or would you rather let her pass through life seeing how far those pretty eyes can get her?

How Do You Do It?

Building self-esteem in girls is hard.

Our society doesn’t value our inner self, it values our outer characteristics.

So, you can’t turn to society to help your daughter.

Education is one of those things that can help you get her where she needs to be. How, though?

Click play to learn about a few ways you can use education to build self-esteem in your own girls.



See, totally not difficult. Many of these things you might already be doing, and they go a long way in helping to develop self-esteem in girls.

Want a few more ideas? I liked these nine ideas over at Divine Caroline.

Imagine the pride you’ll feel as you see your daughter begin to love herself, begin to embrace that which makes her unique.

She’ll sparkle and shine and she’ll be ready to share her special gifts with the world.

She’ll experience the successes and learning experiences that come from being a risk taker.

I’d Love to Hear From You!

How have you used education to build your daughter’s confidence and self-esteem? What tips do you have for other parents?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and watch. Our culture needs a smackdown, and it all starts with you.

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