Teach Your Daughter About Powerful Female Role Models: Oprah Winfrey

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Oprah headshotIs Oprah Winfrey a good role model?  

Some say no; she doesn’t produce value, she doesn’t have good morals, she’s a TV celebrity which, in itself, doesn’t really do anything good for society, she’s just after the money, she sells snake oil.

Others say yes; she grew up in poverty, she overcame severe personal struggles and abuse to make something of herself and her life, she tries to unite people and move us forward as a society, she is inspirational, a generous philanthropist, and positively benefits society.

For each of us to come to our own conclusion, it helps to know what it really means to be a role model.

Mirriam-Webster defines a role model as “a person whose behavior in a particular role is imitated by others”.

Dictionary.com provides a fuller definition:  a person whose behavior, example, or success is or can be emulated by others, especially by younger people.”

Has Oprah Winfrey done anything in her life that fits these definitions?


Forbes magazine reached out to ForbesWoman communities on Twitter and Facebook to determine the most inspiring woman in the world.

After “mom”, Oprah Winfrey was at the top of the list and was named the Most Powerful Celebrity by Forbes in 2010.

Oprah is a successful businesswoman, owner of Harpo Productions, and a TV network.

She is a multi-millionaire and has launched the careers of several now successful people.

Oprah launched her broadcasting career at the age of 19, being the youngest person and first African-American to at Nashville’s WTF-TV.

Oprah Winfrey values education as a way to lift yourself out of poverty and create a future.

Through her private charity, Oprah has offered hundreds of grants to organizations that help educate and empower women.

Through the “Oprah Winfrey Scholars Program”, she provides scholarships to those who want to give back to their communities.  Her leadership and philanthropy is not limited to the United States.  She even created a leadership academy for girls in South Africa.

Oprah was not born with a silver spoon in her mouth…she worked hard for her achievements even in the face of severe personal struggles with childhood abuse. As a result, she initiated the National Child Protection Act in 1991 to establish a database of convicted child abusers.  In 1993, former President Bill Clinton signed the “Oprah Bill” into law.

The list of things that Oprah Winfrey has accomplished covers ten pages on her official biography website.  The list of awards she received takes up one whole page alone!  I encourage you to check it out to learn more about why many think that Oprah Winfrey is a good role model for our daughters.

Click here for more:  http://www.oprah.com/pressroom/Oprah-Winfreys-Official-Biography

Using Reading to Inspire Your Daughter



It provided an escape, a separate world.

I could dream, I could lose myself in the words, I could be anything I wanted to be.

I’m talking about The Secret Garden, and reading as a whole.

Growing up in a less-than-happy household was hard, especially for me, an already introverted child.

My escape was to read. One day, I was sitting in a secret garden with Mary and Colin. The next, I witnessed martians waging war on the world.

I encountered heroes, strong females, dream worlds.

It lit me up inside, and I took that magic and light with me to this day.

Want to inspire your daughter to dream, to take magic and light with her throughout her life?

Use reading to inspire her.

Read to her. Read with her. Give her a special spot that’s all her own to dream and explore and become powerful.

Provide her with books that help her grow as a person, that teach her about powerful female heroines, that encourage her to explore.

Check out the three books below to get your daughter started on her inspiring journey!

You Forgot Your Skirt, Amelia Bloomer

A Sweet Smell of Roses

33 Things Every Girl Should Know About Women’s History: From Suffragettes to Skirt Lengths to E.R.A.

I’ve just shared with you how reading helped me be the woman I am today, now I want you to share what reading has done for you in the comments below!

Careers & Women: How to Prepare Your Daughter to be a {Bread}Winner

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All of us want our daughters to grow up and have the power to do what they want with their life.

Our fear, though, is that we can’t give them everything they need to get there.

We always worry that we’ve left something out, we haven’t given them everything they need.

Today’s video touches on three ways to prepare your daughter to make the decision of becoming a female breadwinner, or not.

By still dreaming yourself, encouraging your daughter to dream, and encouraging her to pursue her passions, you can better prepare your daughter to change the world exactly the way she wants to.

Maybe she wants to grow up and be a stay-at-home mom. There’s nothing at all wrong with that. She’ll raise the next generation of world-changers.

Maybe she wants to work outside the home as the sole breadwinner in her family. There’s nothing wrong with that either. She’ll change the world in her own special way.

Maybe she wants to work at home as the sole breadwinner in her family. Again, it’s totally fine.

You will have trained her to be able to make that decision based on her hopes, dreams, and passions, not based on someone else’s view of what’s right for her.

Part of this entire process is helping your daughter learn how to set goals for herself.

Dream BIG is a series I put together to help you train your daughter to set goals, achieve those goals, and then celebrate the achievement in fun and meaningful ways.

Click here to enter your email address and receive the series as my complimentary gift to you!

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Dumb isn’t Pretty: Building Self-Esteem in Girls Through Education

Building Self-Esteem in Girls Through Education

Building Self-Esteem in Girls Through Education

Self-esteem in girls peaks at about age nine, and then it tanks from there. Sobering right? Yeah, I pretty much feel like a #fail parent.

I want my daughter to feel fulfilled, to know how to shine in her own skin. This requires self-esteem, and I wholeheartedly believe that education is one of the foundational pieces of building self-esteem in girls.

Education provides you with opportunities. Education teaches you about other cultures.

Education helps you discover what makes you sparkle inside.  Keep reading for five ways I strive to use education to help her do this.

What Type of Education?

I’m not just talking book smarts. Education doesn’t have to involve sitting in a school.

Education encompasses a wide realm of activities, and as parents it’s our job to make sure these are appreciated and utilized.

It can involve the library, extra-curricular activities, reading, writing, music, art, science, technology, anything that furthers your knowledge and experience in any given subject.

It can come from books or movies or television {NatGeo anyone?} or people or interactions or experiences.

Wrap your head around all of that I just said up there. You’ve got to understand it before you can help your daughter understand it.

Why is it so Important to Build Self-Esteem in Girls?

Many girls have a tendency to focus on what’s outside; after all, this means they can attract boys.

Who needs a smart girl when you can have a pretty one?

{Yes, typing that last part did make me throw up a little in my mouth.}

Oprah said it best, when talking about aging:

I know for sure that only by owning who and what you are can you step into the fullness of life.

Who you are: a caring, vibrant, empathetic, funny, smart, confident, thoughtful girl. And so on.

What you are: a dentist, doctor, teacher, mother, wife, archaeologist, scientist, business owner. And on and on.

Beauty fades. It can’t be used as a calling card forever.

Would you rather help your daughter build her inner beauty, her hopes and dreams, so that she always feels fulfilled, or would you rather let her pass through life seeing how far those pretty eyes can get her?

How Do You Do It?

Building self-esteem in girls is hard.

Our society doesn’t value our inner self, it values our outer characteristics.

So, you can’t turn to society to help your daughter.

Education is one of those things that can help you get her where she needs to be. How, though?

Click play to learn about a few ways you can use education to build self-esteem in your own girls.



See, totally not difficult. Many of these things you might already be doing, and they go a long way in helping to develop self-esteem in girls.

Want a few more ideas? I liked these nine ideas over at Divine Caroline.

Imagine the pride you’ll feel as you see your daughter begin to love herself, begin to embrace that which makes her unique.

She’ll sparkle and shine and she’ll be ready to share her special gifts with the world.

She’ll experience the successes and learning experiences that come from being a risk taker.

I’d Love to Hear From You!

How have you used education to build your daughter’s confidence and self-esteem? What tips do you have for other parents?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and watch. Our culture needs a smackdown, and it all starts with you.

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